Getting over a heartbreak

Healing from the past

I hear often from women who have had their hearts broken in a relationship. I tell them the best way forward is to forgive themselves first. They cannot forgive the partner that hurt them until they forgive themselves for the trouble they saw and chose to ignore because they were in love. Once they do clearly see the signs of trouble that they ignored in the past, they can resolve NOT to ignore that in the future. As I like to say, these signs of trouble become their “Jerk alerts.” Signs that tell them to run the other way from a person who presents them.

Looking forward after you look backward

Once you have looked back at what happened before, you are ready to move forward to new and better possibilities. The Past is engraved in stone, you cannot change it. But you can look forward to a future where you do not make the same mistakes again. Yes, you will make new ones, we all do, but not the same old ones again.

You will get hurt, but you will learn too.

Remember when a baby was learning to walk? They fall down. They cry sometimes. They get up and try again. And again. Because that is how they learn. We learn by being in relationships and being hurt by them. But we learn from the past and keep going. Sometimes we get our hearts broke again. We all do if we put our hearts out there to be loved by someone else. But we will not be fooled the same way twice. And that is the beginning of wisdom.

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Actions speak louder than words

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. — Maya Angelou A person’s actions will tell you everything you need to know about them, pay attention.” –Joe Mehl Actions speak, words mumble I have talked to a lot of people over the years about their men and romance. I have learned… Continue Reading

Devil card: Everyone is mad as Hell

• I read an advice column recently. A woman is bitterly complaining about her sister-in-law. She judges everything this woman has and does and puts it down. • I read in another advice column where the bride is complaining that people did not spend more than $300 on gifts for her wedding. And she is… Continue Reading

That Ace of Pentacles moment

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. –Chinese Proverb   Aces in tarot are new beginnings. Ace of Wands, new enterprise, or business. Ace of Cups, new love or new energy and excitement. And Ace of Pentacles is a new path opening before you.   I wanted to start something new.… Continue Reading

Why do we need to stop saying, it is what it is?

I am going to rant right now. I do not see why we need to stop saying “it is what it is.” I just read this article:  https://www.cnbc.com/2021/12/26/most-embarrassingly-outdated-words-and-phrases-to-stop-using-right-now-according-to-grammar-experts.html.  The Grammar experts say (among other phrases) we should stop saying, “it is what it is.” I get it, the rest of the article talks of stop… Continue Reading

Morning Pages

I have made a new resolution to start doing Morning Pages again. Morning Pages are the brainchild of Julia Cameron in her book The Artist’s Way. Every day you get up (a little extra early) and write in a 10×8 inch notebook whatever is in your head. You write 3 pages and stop. You don’t… Continue Reading